Love, it begins with you

Loving yourself is the key to being a virtuous women. We are all beautiful creatures inside or ourselves, but from childhood  on, our families and friends have molded us into their belief systems, and ways of living.
What if you found out you were more beautiful than you’ve  ever imagined?
Some how youve gotten lost in the shuffle,but you are all diamonds in the rough. You all deserve to be loved for who you are. You as women need to find yourselves day by day, one step at a time.
Of course you want to be loved and treasured, but most of the time you are looking for love in the wrong places, instead of yourselves. You look outward for approval and  acceptance, instead of inward for all the answers.
When you believe in yourselves and each other as women you  begin realising you have many talents, gifts, and love to share with others. We all need you guys, and that’s the undeniable truth.
No one really loves you because they didn’t know how to love themselves. The truth is, most of us only know love in a limited perspective and you guys are the custodian of it. But again,you as women often  fail to realize that love is far greater than you  have ever imagined. In some ways you  are like catapillars, crawling slowly and softly against  the hard pavement, and it takes so much energy and strength just to get through the day.
When you strip yourselves of all the garbage you’ve stored up inside of you, then  you emerge in the coccoon in a safe place and you learn to transform into that beautiful butterfly one day, and  fly free.
You want to be loved by men, but most of the time you have been  hurt by so many people, you are filled with anger and bitterness instead of healthy love for another person. Not just you, but we men also are in the same place and feel the same way.
It is understandable  that  you women  have a role and purpose in our  lives as men, but it’s not to change us, or make us  into who you feel we need to be for you. You  must learn to let us be where and who we are in the moment. Let us be our own diamonds  in the rough.
You  can complain about us, and pretend that we are at fault and  blame us for everything. But it takes two people in a relationship to succeed.
You need to change  your own beliefs, perspectives, and  ideas about men, and bother less about trying to change that of your man.
To be loved you have to give love first, to recieve love you  have to be loveable to others. If you sit around and complain and  make blame everything on men than you fail to realize your part you play in it.
For the Records; this is unargueably the one fact most women  don’t know, Men only respond to  the way you  react towards them. It’s a case of  reaping what you sow. What you give you  receive. If you are yelling and screaming at a man, he will back away, because he fears you. Men don’t like to be the target for hostility and anger. It wounds them and  bruises them.
We men want to know you adore us, appreciate us, look up to us. We want to be your protector, provider, and strength. We appreciate women  that accept us for who we are. We  don’t want to be changed, but only changed if it is by our own accord, or choice.
As woman you have to realise you have no reason to be jealous of another woman. You  are all unique and precious in your being. There is no other woman on this planet like you. No other woman that thinks like you, or talks like you, looks like you. You are individually designed, there is no competition but in your own mind.
Every relationship will not work out, and some will work out. Most of the time you can consider them as your teacher in life for the moment to help you become the person you  were meant to be in this life time. There are many lessons you must live and learn.
Some of these lessons are hard, and  painful. Some of them are joyful and blissful. You each come from different backgrounds, different cultures, countries, nationalities, and races.
It’s really about accepting your differences, and  pulling out the best in each other. You  each have your own stories and experiences you  have lived through out your lives, even just men do too.
No one has walked through your shoes, or been where you have. Yet you tend to judge ourselves and each other. You  are all human and you are all learning together. Making mistakes is part of life, and instead of aiming hatred and bitterness towards your sisters and brothers in life, you must face yourselves and  make that first change in yourselves.
You  have to step up to the plate and  make a difference not only in your man’s world, but generally, by doing your best to love unconditionally. This usually consists of realizing your words, your tone of voice, your actions and  behaviours, all effect each other.
If you don’t care to change yourselves how do you expect others to change for the better. It starts with you, and only you can change you, no one else can.
To be a woman of virtue that stands up for something, you must step up to the plate, and be different from any other woman on the planet by changing your attitude, your voice, your perspective about yourself, the world, and men. To find Love you must become love itself.