Understanding Women 101

Most of the time, what she means when she says these things, isn't what you think she's saying!
She wants you to know that other men are interested in her and that you should appreciate what you have.
Men and women are very distinct creatures. While men have a tendency to be straightforward, women are often not so simple. Unlike men, women often use hints and insinuations to steer you in their direction, and when trying to understand what they really mean, you are sometimes better off reading between the lines. The following cheat sheet will help you learn how to listen to your woman and bridge the gap between what she says and what she means.

 1. "Fine."
This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right.
 2. "Just give me five minutes."
If she is getting dressed, this means 30 minutes.
 3. "Where is our relationship going?"
What she means is that she would like for you to suggest the idea of the two of you to graduating to a more serious and exclusive relationship.
 4. "Nothing."
This word ALWAYS means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with"Nothing" usually end with "Fine."
 5. "Go ahead."
This is not permission–it's a dare. Whatever it is, do it at your own risk!
 6. "Loud sigh."
This is a non-verbal statement that means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time arguing with you about nothing.
 7. "That's okay."
This is one of the most dangerous statements a woman can make to a man. It means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
 8. "A guy was flirting with me."
She wants you to know that other men are interested in her and that you should appreciate what you have.
 9. "You know me so well."
It means that she's starting to feel the L-word, but she doesn't want to be the first one to say it.
 10. "Don't Worry About It, I Got It."
Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a she has asked you to do several times, but is now doing it herself since you've neglected it. This will later result in you asking "What's wrong?"

THE COMMON TRAITS THAT ATTRACTS EVERY MAN

Ladies, welcome to the response post to; The 10 Things Every Woman Wants in a Man. I told you to watchout for it, now here you have it served on the menu. So settle down and lets have some real good meal....
As my other posts are,this’s also my take on the basic traits that attract every 'real' man. and you'd be shocked they may not be what you've always thought we wanted.
 I encourage you to drop a line after reading this! No one is an island of knowledge, and please lets help these women with every little fact they can get from us!
Lets Ball!
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When we talk about
attraction, we are not talking
about lust (which is also a
form of attraction).

A man can be physically attracted to
a woman, without any
feelings of love, and this
form of attraction is purely
primal and is focused
completely on the "body" of
the woman involved.

What we are talking about, in this
article, is the attraction which
is synonymous with love.
Relationships are built on a
love based attraction, so
what's important would be;
know the traits in a woman,
that men find most attractive,
which makes them fall in
love

The following are some of
the traits that guys find
attractive in women:

SOFT HEARTEDNESS 
Men are
more likely to fall in love
with a woman who is soft,
or warm- hearted , than a
woman who is cold.
Guys love to be mothered
(not nagged but cared for),
and so they tend to fall for a
woman who offers them
acceptance and warmth.

MODESTY
 Men fall in love
with the "modest" girls, and
lust after the "hot" ones.
Modesty in behavior,
dressing and talking is what
men look for in their "long-
term" partner. Though guys
find "hot" women attractive,
it's mostly physical in nature
and they lose interest after a
few passionate encounters in
the bed. There is also a
common consent among
men that "hot" women are
less reliable, and high
maintenance. In short, men
love women who they can
take home to their mother.
(talk true, abi na lie ?)

BEING FEMININE
Most Men" like feminine women.
Feminity is all about being
soft, kind hearted,
understanding and caring.
This attraction is justified by
the fact that "men are
attracted to traits in a woman
which they themselves lack"
.
CHARACTER
Men are attracted
to a woman who projects a
strength of character and
integrity. The word "fidelity"
is becoming rarer nowadays
even among women, who
were historically more loyal
of the two, and men find this
to be bad news. So men are
constantly on the look out
for a woman who can
invoke trust through her
strength of character.

THE WOMAN'S VOICE
Women are naturally endowed with a
beautiful voice which men
find highly attractive. Some
men love a strong voice in a
woman, some prefer a soft
tone, with a high pitch.
Some women have a husky
voice and many guys find
that attractive too.

HER SMILE
A smile can easily win over a male heart.
If as a girl, you are prone to
having a smiling face you are
more likely to be
approached by guys than
when you have a smug, or
frowning, face. (try am)

HER EYES
Next to the smile,
this is another facial feature
that men get attracted to.
Some men simply fall in love
with the woman's eyes. The
eyes can speak a thousand
words and this is very much
true with it comes to
attracting men.

THE WOMAN'S HAIR
Most men get attracted by
moderately long hair or
anything close to shoulder
length as that looks more
feminine. Having said that,
there are a lot of men who
find women with short hair
attractive.

PHYSICAL FEATURE
As far as physical features are
concerned, men get attracted
to a woman's skin, lips,
height and waist-to-hip
ratio. Contrary to popular
assumptions real men are not
bothered so much about the
size of the breasts or derriere
when it comes to looking for
a life mate. Trust me, these factors are
pretty much insignificant.

SENSE OF HUMOUR
Men generally get attracted to
women with a good sense of
humor. A Woman who can
understand and laugh with
them. Sense of humor is not
necessarily the ability to
crack jokes but the ability to
understand and laugh at
one.

CONFIDENCE
Last but not the least,
men get attracted towards women
who make them feel comfortable and
confident. Woman who
supports them and the one
with whom he feels relaxed
and open.

So these are the ten
important traits that men
find attractive in women.
As you may have heard/read,
the littlelest things we barely pay attention to,
counts the most!
But again, every man has his
unique taste. The above
points are common to most
men but not for all. Look at
it this way. A man may look
for and get attracted to such
qualities in a woman that he
lacks himself.
 For instance,
a tough guy will look for a
soft female. Hope you got
the idea.

So bear in mind that for every
woman there is a man out
there, so just relax and look
out for him.

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  Regards...
@koredanielz

The Vow

“I, Sarah Adams take Lawson Kuti as my lawful wedded husband, to love and to cherish, in sickness and in health, till death do us part” she smiled at him through her veil.
“You may now kiss your bride Mr. Lawson” The Pastor beckoned.
Lawson’s heart raced as he gently unveiled his bride’s face. She looked so beautiful. He gently bent over and placed a soft kiss on her lip. Sarah in turn embraced him tightly with tears of joy streaming down her face.
“Never leave me Sarah” He whispered in her ear.
“I will never leave you” she whispered and they slowly released themselves from the embrace.
“I present to you the latest couple!” The Pastor exclaimed excitedly
The church cheered and Sarah cried more in her husband’s arms
5 years Later
Sarah silently tip toed behind her husband. He was in his study, engrossed in reading. She smiled to herself and gently covered his eyes with both hands.
“It’s just you and I in this house Sara, plus, I smelled you the moment you walked in” He dropped
Sara released her hold, sighed and sat on the study table, “Why do you figure me out so easily? I can’t even surprise you! That sucks” she curled her arms around his neck
“You are my wife, nothing you do is supposed to surprise me” He playfully pecked her nose.
“But you’ve been in the study all day and I’m bored!” She rolled her eyes
“So what kind of fun do you suggest we have then?” He swooped her off the table in his arms
“No! no that kind of fun!” She hit him playfully till he put her down
“Ok”, He folded his arms on his chest, looking into her eyes, “So what do you want us to do?”
“Not us. Actually, all I want is to play with your play station and you’ve hidden it again! Just give it and you can continue your reading. pleaaaseee” She blinked her eyes playfully
“No way”, He went back toward his study chair and sat, “Not my play station”
“Why! You never let me touch it…like its your baby” She sulked
“Well”, he rolled his eyes, “Not like you’ve given me a baby yet”
Sara paused for a moment. Did he just say that to her? The words struck her deep down
“You shouldn’t have said that Lawson…” She managed to say, her countenance changing.
“But it’s true…I’m only saying the truth Sara” He turned to face her, still sitting on the chair.
“The truth? You think I don’t want us to have kids?”
“Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that…” He stood to face her now.
“Then what are you saying Lawson? Tell me, what is the truth?”
“Let’s not do this today…please. You can have the play station and play all you want. It’s in my footwear locker and the key is in my Bible”
“You always do this…hurting me with your words” Her voice began to shake
“Don’t start Sara please”
“Tell me why you said those words to me! I want to know!”
“Because I’m tired! I want to be a father! I want to have my own kids Sara…”
” and you think I don’t?!” Sara flared, trying not to let the tears pour
“Then why can’t you get pregnant Sara? This is the fifth year we are trying.” He clenched his teeth and walked out of the study.
Sara was in shock. She sat on the chair for some seconds, stood up again and sat on the chair again…this time she held on to her blouse and burst into tears.
2weeks after
“Lawson, wake up please” Sara tapped him
Lawson gently opened his eyes and looked at the alarm clock by his bedside, “It’s 2:00am Sara…”
“It’s urgent”
“I’m listening” He said drowsily
“Mother says we should come for tests. She says she’s spoken to her doctor and he said we should come.”
“What?” Lawson opened his eyes now, “Your mother is the UK for Christs sakes”
“Let’s just do it. We can go for the weekend, lets just give it a shot, please.”
“No. That would be rather expensive and…”
“It’s my birthday today and the only thing I want from you is this trip”
Lawson fell quiet now. For the past two years now, his wife’s birthday skips his mind…totally.
“I’m…I’m sorry Sara…It skipped my mind…”
“It always does” She lay down back on the bed, backing him.
Lawson wrapped his arms around her waist, “I said I’m sorry…”
No response.
Lawson sighed, “Fine, we go this weekend”
“Really?” She turned sharply, excited
“If it will make you happy today”
“Thank you baby” She hugged him.
A week after
Sara jerked at the vibration of the phone in her pocket.
“Hi mom!” she pressed the phone to her ear with her shoulders, wiping the washed dishes with her hands.
“Honey…”
“What is it mom?” she pressed it harder
“The result…the result of the tests…” her mother cried
Sarah gently dropped the plate and the wiper, heart racing…”Just say it mom…”
That night
“I can never have children Lawson…” Sara cried
Lawson felt his world crash right in front of him, “W…what?”
“Mama called today…she’s gotten the tests results”
“Jesus Christ” Lawson stood, placing his palm on his head, “b…but you told me you were ok before we got married, you told me the doctor said your abortion didn’t damage your womb”
“Don’t bring my past into this!” Sara flared
Lawson laughed and got serious almost immediately, “You are crazy. I married a crazy woman!”
Sara looked at him in shock, like he’d lost his mind.
“The results say you can never have children and we both know that this has to do with the abortion you had before we met!”, he flared, “are you happy?…you know we’re screwed right? No kids? what re we going to tell the world?”
“Lawson we can adopt…” Sara cried
“Adopt? Wow!”, he laughed again, “I married a funny woman too!” He got serious again, “Its still not our baby! The damn baby is not my flesh and blood! You are full of deceit Sara” He looked into her eyes. Sara could see him fighting his tears.
“Lawson stop…you are hurting me…” Sara fell on her knees crying
“You want to know what I’m thinking?” Lawson looked at her with disgust, “I’m thinking how on earth I’m going to stand seeing your deceitful face for the rest of my life”
Sara cried harder, “Don’ t give up Lawson…So far I have a womb…I can still carry our baby…”
“I am not giving up on having my baby, I’m giving up on you” Lawson turned around to leave
“Lawson!” She held his feet, “I’m hurting too…”
He only dragged his feet from her hold and drove out of the house. She wept.
A month Later
“Mother, he’s not even talking to me. All of a sudden we are both strangers…He doesn’t eat my food, comes home late…he hates me so much and its killing me. I’m confused…to think that it’s me truly hurting…”
“For how long will you hide this truth from him. You’ve got to let him know…you can’t carry his…”
There was the sound of a car horn
“Mom I’ve got to go…he’s back”
“Baby, you’ve got to let him know. It can work when you two are one in mind”
“Bye mom” she ended the call.
Lawson came into the house, about to walk past her.
“Lawson” She held him
“I’m tired” He didn’t want to look at her face
“I know…can we talk for some minutes?” She tried to help him remove his suit
“Look what is it?” He jerked from her
“Do you hate me this much? you can’t even look me in the eye? you can’t even stand my sight? Lawson…it’s me Sara…your best friend…” Her eyes grew moist
“I’m in no mood for this” He turned around to walk away
“Don’t you dare leave when I’m talking to you!” She dragged him by the suit. Just then, some papers fell to the floor. Sara quickly bent to pick them up…her hands shook and her body became numb all over.
“D…divorce papers? Lawson?” She searched his eyes
“Answer me goddammit!” She held him by the collar of his shirt, crying
“They are for you to sign. I want out” Lawson dropped
“Y…you what?” she slowly freed him from her hold
“It’s not going to work Sara, can’t you see?”
“Lawson I can’t believe you would think of a divorce and even go this far…why are you so wicked!” she cried, angry
“No! Why are you so wicked!” He retorted, flaring
“Think about me for once. I am a man for Christs sakes. My children are my pride! and you are about to deny me that for the rest of my life because of your stupid mistake!”
“What about me! have you stopped for once to think about what I’m going through”
“Its your cross, carry it” Lawson fixed his angry eyes on his wife
“No, its now our cross and I am not signing those divorce papers! We vowed never to leave each other!”
“Isn’t it better Sara, that you save yourself more hurt and sign these papers than to see another woman move into this house before your very eyes?” he said with a tone of sarcasm
Sara’s heart thumped, “What?”
“You heard me…another woman who can help raise a family, so save yourself the stress and sign the damn papers. I need it tomorrow”He turned around to leave again
“She still can’t carry your baby” Sara dropped
“Not all women had abortions. Not every woman was like you.” He scorned
“You are the one who can’t give me a child!” Sara let out, crying.
Lawson stopped now, turned around and walked towards her, “Whatever your plan is won’t  work”
“I told you I could never have a child because its you who can’t make me pregnant”
“Shut up! shut up Sara! what the hell are you saying!” He shook her shoulders violently
“You are infertile Lawson…the doctor says you have primary infertility…”  Sara burst into tears
Lawson gasped, loosing his balance.
“Mother called me to give me the news. I was shattered, I felt like my world was over but more importantly I thought of you. I thought of what the news could do to you, I thought of the best way to tell you… never for once did i think of leaving you. I bore your insults, your scorn, because of my past. It was so easy to judge me and think of yourself. I am the one who is hurting, I am the one who should bring some miserable divorce papers…but I thought of you…I thought of hope, faith and a miracle…I thought of my vow to you on that altar. In sickness  and in health remember?”, she smiled through her tears, “all of a sudden you are as weak as a baby…looking in your eyes, I can see you suddenly have lost all your guards, You are so wicked”
“Sara…” Lawson fell on his knees, torn.
“No!” She quickly fell on her knees too, “No Lawson…” She couldn’t bear to see him cry
“I’m…I’m infertile”, he cried, “What is left of me?” he searched his wife’s eyes
“Lawson please…” she held his face, “I understand…it has been so hard for me…I have put myself in your shoes since the first day…”
“You don’t deserve this…you deserve better…I can’t believe I scorned you all along…please let me leave you”
“No” she shook her head, “You are my husband. I won’t leave you. I won’t let you leave me…I believe in miracles”
“I’m doomed…Sara I’m doomed…”He allowed his wife take him in her arms and on her shoulder he wept like a child.
In the Morning
Sara gently opened her eyes, looking beside her bed…it was empty. She quickly sat up on seeing a note gently placed on the bed. Hands shaking, she opened the letter to read.
Sara,
I cannot bear the shame. I have treated you so unfairly, yet you love me still, you are with me even in this condition of mine. To think that you knew all along and you never for once gave me a clue that it is my fault we are in this mess, makes me so unworthy of you. I love you enough to let you build another life with a man who can make you happier. I’m torn Sara and all I ask is your forgiveness. I have always loved you and if you truly love me then please start your life over again…without me…I am truly sorry for disappointing you.
                                                                                                                                                Lawson.
Sara couldn’t control the tears. She couldn’t think straight anymore. She picked her cell phone, shaking…
“Hi Mr. Lawson’s office please”
“HI Lola…” she cried, “have you seen my husband today?”
“No…no ma’am, we’ve been expecting him at work. He has a presentation is fifteen minutes”
“Oh God…God…” Sara dipped her hand in her full hair
“Everything ok ma’am?”
“Thank you” she ended the call.
She quickly got down from the bed and in her pajamas she ran into her car. She dialed his number repeatedly as she drove…no answer.
At 2:00pm
She sped into Fred’s compound, a close friend to her husband.
“Fred!” she banged the door hastily till the door flung open
“My God Sara what’s wrong?” Fred held her
“It’s…its Lawson…have you seen him? is he here?”
“No…Haven’t heard from him in a week”
“Oh God” she held her hair
“What’s wrong?”
But she was already walking away into her car.
“Sara!” He called after her.
She zoomed away.
4:30pm
“Mom, Dad, I can’t find Lawson…I can’t find your son…” she cried as she paced in front of the two who looked lost
“You have to calm down and tell us what happened” Lawson’s mother put her arms around Sara.
Sara burst into tears, “Please Dad could you try his number, maybe he’d pick your call?”
“Have you been to his office?” He picked his cellphone and dialed his son’s number
“I have been everywhere I know him to be likely available”
“It’s ok…calm down please” Lawson’s mother pet her
“He’s not picking. What exactly went wrong between you two?” Lawson’s father searched Sara’s eyes
9:00pm
Sara was still in her pajamas and on her way back home, exhausted and stuck in the traffic. She had told Lawson’s parents everything. The poor couple was so shattered and also begging her to begin a new life. Sara buried her head on the steering, crying. she hadn’t realized the green light.
“Hey get off the freaking road!” a driver cursed from behind her
“God please don’t let him harm himself…keep him safe and lead me to him…please God…” she quickly started the car and began to move.
Suddenly she remembered the church where they wedded and took their vows. It was two hours from here; she made a u-turn and headed for the church hoping to find some peace.
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She tiredly got down from the car, drenched and exhausted. She trudged into the open entrance of the church. She paused for a moment; shocked…it was Lawson sitting at the front row of the empty church, facing the altar.
“Lawson!” She began to run towards him, happy, relieved that he was ok.
“Sara?” He quickly stood as she approached him, “Sara…”
They both ran into each other’s arms. He hugged her so tightly
“I looked for you everywhere….this was the last place I thought you’d ever be…I just came and I saw you…Lawson….I’m so happy you are ok” she touched his face
“I didn’t know where else to go…It just feels like I cant face the world anymore…” he slowly released her from his embrace.
“Take my hand” Sara stretched out her hand, “C’mon, just take it”
Lawson gently clasped his hand into hers and she took him to the altar and stood to face him. She searched his eyes so deeply and hadn’t seen him so weak and helpless.
“Five years ago Lawson, we both stood on this altar. Remember our vows? Remember you whispered in my ear never to leave you. I told you I wouldn’t…that’s why I’m here. I am your wife Lawson, I am meant to be with you forever, through the bad and good times. We’ve had good times, why would I leave you now? All I want from you is to believe that you can still give me a child despite what the result said…I want you to believe in a miracle”, she held his face, “remember when you told me I was a miracle in your life?…our children will be our miracles too. Trust God with me because I know it won’t be long…”
“Who are you Sara…” Lawson was weak with her words
“The one who vowed to be with you till the end” she smiled through her thin tears
“God I love you so much” He hugged her again
“So will you come back home with me?” Sara searched his eyes
“I have no other place to call home” He placed a soft kiss on her lips.
2 years after
Lawson and Sara were on the sofa watching a late night movie. Sara was resting on his shoulders when she felt the movement
“Lawson Lawson, it moved again…don’t miss it this time touch touch” she gently placed his palm on the side of the stomach. Both felt the movement of their child
“I can feel him…I can feel him” Lawson placed his head on her belly
“I can feel him growing each day inside of me…”
“What do you think its saying now by this movement?”
“Thank you dada for believing in me” she laughed. They both laughed
“The movement has stopped” he slowly removed his head from her stomach, “I think he’s sleeping”
Sara rested on his shoulders again, “In six months you’d be a father, “You finally got your miracle”
Lawson tilted his wife’s face to him, looking into her eyes, “Sara…you were the miracle I needed. Thank you for not leaving me.”
Sara tickled his nose with hers, “I love you too. Always will”, she smiled, “We missed a whole lot on our movie”
“Movie can wait, but this can’t” He gently planted a kiss on her belly.
Hi Friends,
First, we forget our vows so easily, so quickly that once our marriages start hitting the rocks, we fail to realize that there is power in union. When there is union, every mountain can be subdued. The problem is people don’t yet understand the concept of marriage and trust me, until you do, please don’t go to the alter because what you don’t understand will eventually become a burden and confuse you. The concept of marriage is ‘for better, for worse’. The ‘worse’ moments always come. I am not saying expect bad things but I’m saying that challenges come in marriage to make you stronger in oneness so don’t use it against yourselves.
Second, miracles are real and I hope we all learn to have the patience to have our miracles in the end. Remember that marriage is a ‘stick and stay’ relationship not a ‘hit and run’ thing.
Remember your vows each day, enjoy your marriage, you deserve it!
Rock on!

LowlaDee

The 10 Things Every Woman Wants in a Man

Guys welcome, settle in and lets have some real good talk....
Here’s my take on what women want in a man. and you'd be shocked they may not be what you've always thought they wanted.
 If there’s any woman out there reading this that has something else to add to the points i'll highlight, please do! Men can use all the help they can get from you!
1. The first and most important characteristic is HONESTY. Ladies, If you’re not about to trust your man, you don’t have a relationship! Men, please tell the truth, all the time, no matter how bad it may be. they’ll love you for your honesty!
2. What’s a man without a good SENSE OF HUMOUR? Boring, that’s what it is! Sing her a song, tell a joke, do whatever you have to make her laugh, because if you don’t know how to make or take a joke, a long, happy relationship is probably not in your future.
3. A NICE SMILE can make any woman smile! It’s the most important part of a person’s face and it’s the first thing you see when you meet someone new, so make sure that those pearly whites are sparkling!
4. Men like to talk about what they know, and the truth is, women like to hear it. INTELLIGENCE is one of the most attractive characteristics in any man. Women want you to amaze them with your extensive knowledge about everthing!
5. One thing that is so refreshing to find in a guy is a POSITIVE OUTLOOK on life. Negative people just bring others down with them and no woman wants a man who will make her sad and depressed.
6. Having a SENSITIVE DEMEANOR is key to any successful relationship, so to see a man who’s able to connect to his sensitive side is sweet and actually very manly as far as women are concerned. Yes, a sensitive man can be quite masculine and sexy!
7. Many women love adventure and trying new things so it’s great have a man with an OPEN MIND. Being able to step out of one’s comfort zone to take risks is such an important characteristic because it really makes life interesting. Give your woman the push to make new experiences. Make her try new things, especially as africans, let her try new foods all the time, foods she would othewise, had never have tried herself. Make her enjoy coooking!
8. Seriously, women can spend up to an hour each day making up just to look pretty for you. And they want the same respect back! Trust me! Your PHYSICAL APPEARANCE is important to them! They don’t want to be seen with a slob! So please, take some time and work on your appearance!
9. Old fashioned CHIVALRY is still greatly appreciated by many women. It’s not easy to find any more these days, but seriously a lady deserves to be treated like such!
10. DETERMINATION. Every woman loves a determined goal-driven man. Its a thing of pride and a driving force. And that’s so important, especially since a lady has her own goals as well, so youre  able to motivate each other.
I hope this made some sense! And in reply to this post, i'll be dropping a reply post in a few day titled- THE COMMON TRAITS THAT ATTRACTS EVERY MAN.
Watch out for it!

Regards!